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Adolescent Problems
ADOLESCENT PROBLEMS AND
ITS TREATMENT
Adolescence is a stage in a person’s life between
childhood and adulthood with much personal growth-
physical, psychological and social. Adolescence
is marked by two significant changes in physical
development. • First – physiological changes or
dramatic change in size and shape. • Second – the
inception of puberty.
Psycho-Social Development is key factor - spending
more time with their friends than with their family,
keeping a diary, locking up their rooms, become
involved in multiple hobbies, become more argumentative,
would not want to be seen with their parents in
public etc.
Now they become vulnerable to many forms of trouble.
As adolescents try new behaviors, they become vulnerable
to injury, legal consequences, and sexually transmitted
diseases, unwanted pregnancies, traumatic injuries,
particularly from car and motorcycle accidents,
etc..
Early
maturing girls are likely to start dating. Teens
tend to assume that if they engage in the physical
act, the emotional attachment will follow
Parents and their adolescents clash over almost
everything. Adolescents want to feel in control
of their lives. Break up with boy/girl friendship,
Increased arguments with parents ,Trouble with
brother or sister ,Increased arguments between
parents , Change in parents’ financial status ,Serious
illness or injury of family member , and Trouble
with classmates leads, all makes vulnerable to
feelings of tension, frustration, worry, sadness
and withdrawal which give hopelessness, sadness,
isolation, worry and worthlessness. Depression
is more severe and longer lasting.
The pressure exerted by a friends or group encourages
a person to change their attitude, behavior and/or
morals, or outlook on life. e.g. take drugs, smoke
etc.
The local television, cable television, the internet,
the 3G technology in handsets, Video, CD and DVD
players, name it, are all now at our very disposal.
Adolescents have a delicate innocence that can
be easily influenced, traumatized and subsequently
spoil mind set. Once they have imbibed something
negative, it becomes almost impossible to change
them which can destroy their lives.
Most parents are often too busy and show only some
extra interest in what their children are affected.
Behavior Problems in Adolescent
- Social non adjustment
- "Brittle" or fragile emotional
temperament
- Refusal to attend to college
- Poor and no interest in study
- Demanding and selfish attitude
- Disregard for rules, responsibilities and
family
- Erratic or emotionally unstable behavior
- Poor hygiene and grooming
- Behavior is disrespectful
- Involved in high risk activities
- Using alcohol or other drugs
- Stealing or theft
- Destructive, threatening or violent behavior
- Self-harming or suicidal behavior
(N.B. one can trace the cause to one or more factors.
Identifying these factors we can remove the cause
and get appropriate response and the potential
solution)
Adolescents live in a very special world. They
have continuous changes of their hormones, physics
and mental state. It can be very frightening and
confusing for them. Things that appear simple or
immaterial to an adult may feel like huge problems
to a young person, leading to conflicts and misunderstandings.
There is a sense of helplessness and the feeling
that ‘no one understands me’, resulting in a perception
of the world as a big and threatening place. They
may feel that they don’t know what they want or
what to do about their future.
Using coaching methods by NLP can gently ease out
the roots of these problems. These result in empowerment
of the young person with the feeling of being in
control and able to find a ways in which to cope
with, and to overcome their problems. A feeling
of security can return, bringing a great sense
of relief to the youngster and parents. NLP is
must for all adolescent.
It is quite usual and commonly understandable
that adolescent can have depression, anxiety or
be addicted to different substances. Parents forget
very often that our kids and adolescents have to
fight for their happiness too and they also have
some issues to adjust to the modern world.
We, adults, study to learn how to be a great businessman,
accountant, social person, or doctor. We do not
learn how to become a great parent for our kids,
so sometimes we just do not know how to talk with
them and how to help them when they have some problems.
We rush for help the surrounding but neglect our
own adolescent and child.
If you observe that something wrong is going on
with your kids just react and do not wait too long.
There are too many suicide attempts to close your
eyes on your own kids problems. Everything can
be solved. Sometimes there is only a question of
few meetings and an open communication.
What are the Solutions?
- The first step is to define the problem and
a cause.
- - Self-help
- - Parenting education and training and advice
- - Individual counseling
- - Special education
- - Outdoor activities
- - Medical intervention
- Hypnotherapy
- Neuro Linguistic Programme
Diagnosis can be misleading.
One of the least useful and potentially harmful
is to rely entirely on a diagnosis. A diagnosis
alone can be misleading. Many problems are not
solved because the problem was diagnosed. The
diagnosis suggestes an approach that is inadequate
and unfocused.
There can be many sources and causes for a particular
problem. A traumatic experience can result in many
different problems in family. The behaviors associated
with attention deficits can be caused by many things.
A child who is living in an abusive home may be
depressed and emotionally withdrawn. There are
many potential outcomes and approaches, and these
can vary with each family, their beliefs, values,
attitudes, culture, ethnicity and their resources.
Parents need to have good behaviour is the most
important part of the solution.
The Power of Parenting and Family.
Parents and family members can have the most powerful
impact on adolescent’s behavior, attitude and approach
to life. Why? Because a therapist can only provide
an exceptional environment for an hour or some
time while parents are with them for all the time.
Therapy and counseling can never replace the essential
role of parents or a family. It only support those
roles. But if parents are unwilling or unable to
become involved with their child or in therapy,
then therapy can provide the support that some
children desperately need.
Friends and Social Pressure.
Adolescent are profoundly influenced by their peers.
Children learn behaviors and will adopt the attitude
of other children. Children get approval, advice
and even direction for their life. Independence
and separation from parents is now a natural process.
But attitudes may become hostile, and values can
become lost when parents become less involved with
their children. Children begin to think the way
they talk with their friends. Children tend to
become what they think about.
Counseling and Therapy.
I use very successfully Neuro Linguistic Programme
and Hypnotherapy. I have good command over the
techniques. So the adolescent with start of the
therapy has good satisfaction and start to cooperate
me. I provide an environment of activities that
bring about change – almost like exercise. This
gives excellent result. And will resolve the problem
very easily.
Counseling and therapy is a mixed bag as far as
solutions go. Counseling usually results in a self
realization. Adolescent gets educated, gather informations
and become actively invested in understanding the
problems.
Counseling like role modeling, role-playing, analyzing interaction,
and practicing new techniques interact positively. Now
adolescent is likely
to experience new
motivation to improve
their social life,
He learns how to resolve conflict without resorting
to physical fights, and how to avoid becoming the
target of others’ aggression. By counseling identify
his own anger cues and he brainstorm in advance
about the positive solutions he can apply to future
conflicts. He can learn to “talk himself down”
(“I’m going to take three deep breaths and think
about my best choice in this situation before lashing
out.”). (“How about if we go tution first and then
see a movie?”), (“OK, you can drive, but then I
get to decide on the restaurant.”), (“I’m starving.
You want to get some good food?”).
Hypnotherapy for Adolescence
Hypnotherapy helps for all kind of anxiety or
fear, performance anxiety like test-taking, public
speaking, sports, for chronic illness; phobia;
Hypnotherapy helps with anything that involves
letting go of problematic memories.
Hypnotherapy can help in the following areas
- Spirit: Bodily problems: (menstrual cramps; asthma;
skin problems; headaches) Mind: beliefs about oneself
which block learning, growth and healthy self-esteem.
Emotions: trauma of a accident, fire or assault;
fears and phobias, which are numerous in adults.
Social: It can help with friendship skills; setting
healthy boundaries.
I use a therapeutic technique called Pediatric
Hypnosis to help children and adolescents deal
with the anxiety, pain , manage stress, problem
solve and chronic conditions. I also use for depression,
separation anxiety from friends, fears, sleep disorders,
medical problems such as asthma, stomachaches.
This method involves teaching how to do deep relaxation,
then helping them narrow their focus of concentration,
utilizing all of their senses for the purpose of
enhancing feelings of mastery and getting self
control.
Hypnosis effectively engages the subconscious mind—that
part connected with behavior patterns, emotions,
and memories—which is the seat of the imagination.
Children are so adept at using their imagination
that they are said to be in a state of hypnosis
much of the time. They are masters at daydreaming,
playing "pretend," and engaging in "make
believe." That ability allows them to easily
visualize, sense, or feel the things that are suggested
to help them resolve an issue. Teenagers tend to
be more analytical. Their curiosity about hypnosis,
their imagination, and desire to make changes generally
make them good candidates for this treatment.
ADOLESCENCE CAN BE PROGRAMMED FOR SUCCESS
“You are the Gardener of Your Own Being."
Hypnosis focuses on building their belief of themselves,
practicing and reinforcing successful behaviors,
and letting them "experience" the benefits.
Imagine what a wonderful treatment this is - it
will prepare adolescent to travel on life’s journey.
Young people who are introduced to hypnosis apply
themselves to . . .
- Be more relaxed
- Feel competent and capable
- Focus more easily
- Feel empowered
- Creatively problem solve
- Feel equipped to handle challenges
Medication
Allopathic medication
Psychiatric medications for behavioral and mental
health problems will treat the symptoms and not
the cause. Medications do not cure psychological,
emotional and behavioral problems. Psychiatric
medications that are used to treat depression,
anxiety, mood swings, attention deficits, hyperactivity
and disorganized thinking always damage another
part of a adolescent’s body and brain. These "side-effects" have
the long term impact on mental growth.
So one should be cautious about the use of medications
to treat behavioral problems.
More importantly, a adolescent’s personality and
attitude in life will be damaged if that adolescent’s
is left in a depressed, anxious or otherwise dysfunctional
state for an extended period of time otherwise
that would destroy a adolescent’s attitude toward
life.
Homeopathic medication
Our body is always changing – each and every day.
Not only are our bodies growing and maturing however,
so are our personalities. However, there is the
addition of a crucially important element at this
time – the sex hormones. Puberty brings about enormous
changes in the shape of these children’s bodies.
Homeopathic medicines can help stimulate the healing
system to deal with the hormonal changes naturally
and so reduce the harmful impacts on the body that
produce these problems. “Constitutional” homeopathic
medicines which are commonly indicated at this
time will help the adolescent in long way. homeopathic
medicines are must for every adolescent.
Complications
Untreated depression can result in emotional, behavioral
and health problems that affect every area of life.
Complications related to depression can include:
- Low self-esteem
- Alcohol and drug abuse
- Academic problems
- Family conflicts and relationship difficulties
- Social isolation
- Involvement with the juvenile justice system
- Suicide
Difficult
to treat cases-
- negative self-esteem, obesity, peer problems
– bad surrounding friends, long-term bullying
or academic problems
- presences of other conditions - anxiety disorder,
anorexia, (ADHD) or learning disabilities
- has been the victim or witness of violence,
such as physical or sexual abuse
- Having a chronic medical illness such as cancer,
diabetes or asthma
- certain personality traits, such as low self-esteem
or being overly dependent, self-critical or pessimistic
- Having Abusing alcohol, nicotine or other drugs
- Being a girl — depression occurs more often
in females than in males
- Having a parent, grandparent or other biological
(blood) relative with depression, bipolar disorder
or alcoholism
- Having a family member who committed suicide
- Having a dysfunctional family and conflicting
parents
- Having experienced recent stressful life events,
such as parental divorce, or the death of a loved
one
My own experience-
- The sooner an adolescent’s depression, anxiety,
anger, substance use, etc, is recognized, the
greater the chances that the situation can be
resolved before worse problems develop.
- No
one therapist is a miracle worker, and no one
treatment works for everyone.parental cooperation
and interest in treatment is very valuable.
- Talk therapy is often a good initial treatment
of depression. Over the course of therapy, your
adolescent depression may resolve.
- The human brain
develops rapidly in young adults, and exposure
to antidepressants drugs may impact that development—particularly
the way the brain manages stress and regulates
emotions. antidepressants drugs interfere with
normal functioning of brain chemical.
- Supporting
a teen and adolescent - Be understanding. Encourage
physical activity. Encourage
social activity. Stay involved
in treatment. Are the key for successful outcome.
- So be patient. Rejoice in small improvements
and prepare for the occasional setback. Most
importantly, don’t judge yourself or compare
your family to others. As long as you’re doing
your best to get your teen the necessary help,
you’re doing your job perfectly.
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