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Dr Prakash Shah

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ANGER

What is anger?

Anger is an emotion accompanied by biological changes in  body. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure rise and stress hormones are released. This can cause you to shake, become hot and sweaty and feel out of control.

Angry behaviours include yelling, throwing things, criticising, ignoring, storming out and sometimes withdrawing and doing nothing.Anger can often lead to violence if not properly controlled.

it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.

Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can cause angry feelings.

Why do we get angry?

Anger is often associated with frustration - things don't always happen the way we want and people don't always behave the way we think they should. Anger is usually linked with other negative emotions or is a response to them. You may be feeling hurt, frightened, disappointed, worried, embarrassed or frustrated, but may express these sorts of feelings as anger. Anger can also result from misunderstandings or poor communication between people.

Expressing Anger

Men and women manage and express anger in different ways. With men, anger may be the primary emotion, as many men believe that anger is a more legitimate emotion to express in a situation. For women the reverse may often be true - the anger gets buried under tears.

Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive means being respectful to yourself and others.

The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. If anger isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself and may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses.

When is anger a problem?

Anger becomes a problem when it creates trouble for you with other people, your work, your health, day-to-day living or the law. Anger is also a problem when other people around you are frightened, hurt or feel they cannot talk to you or disagree with you in case you become angry. Some signs that anger is a problem are outlined here.

• Anger causes emotional, physical or psychological abuse.
• You feel angry a lot of the time.
• People close to you are worried about your anger.
• Anger is leading to problems with personal relationships and work.
• .Anger lasts for a long time, and well after the triggering event has passed.
• Anger affects other situations not related to the original event.
• You are getting angry with the people who are closest to you, or with people who are less powerful than you, rather than dealing with the situation you get angry in the first place.

Why manage anger?

Anger is not usually a good solution to problems, even if it seems helpful in the short term. Unmanaged anger creates problems - sometimes for you and often for others around you. People with poor anger management are more likely to have problems with personal relationships or work, verbal and physical fights and/or damaged property. They can also suffer from anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, psychosomatic illnesses and problems with alcohol or drugs. It is important to manage anger before it leads to other serious problems.

Some people used to believe that venting anger was beneficial. Researchers have now found that ‘letting it rip' actually escalates anger and aggression and venting anger does nothing to resolve the situation. Expressing some feelings of anger in a controlled way, rather than bottling it up, gives you an opportunity to release some of your underlying feelings, so that you can start to tackle the issues and make solution that making you angry.

Why Are Some People More Angry Than Others? A number of things. some people really are more "hotheaded" than others are; they get angry more easily and more intensely than the average person does. There are also those who don't show their anger in loud spectacular ways but are chronically irritable

Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

you have more control over your anger than you think. You can learn to express your emotions without hurting others—and when you do, you’ll not only feel better, you’ll also be more likely to get your needs met. Mastering the art of anger is the easier. And the payoff can be huge. Learning to control your anger and express it appropriately can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a healthier, more satisfying life.

Why anger management is important

• Constantly operating at high levels of stress and tension is bad for your health. Chronic anger makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, high cholesterol levels, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.
• Chronic anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate and enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.
• anger hurts your career, your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and erodes their respect. What’s more, a bad reputation can follow you wherever you go, making it harder and harder to get ahead.
• Out-of-control anger hurts your relationships. It causes lasting scars in the people you love most and gets in the way of your friendships. Chronic, intense anger makes it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable—they never know what is going to set you off or what you will do. Explosive anger is especially damaging to children.
• You may have embarrassment, insecurity, hurt, shame, or vulnerability and you may be using anger as a cover for them. Emotional awareness is the key to self-understanding and success in life. Without the ability to recognize, manage, and deal with the full range of human emotions, you’ll inevitably spin into confusion, isolation, and self-doubt.

What is anger management?

Anger management is about understanding your anger and why it happens. It is about learning and practising better ways of expressing anger, and knowing how to prevent. Specifically, anger management is about knowing the triggers and early warning signs of anger, and learning techniques to calm down and manage the situation before it gets out of control.

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.

How prone to anger you are, and how well you handle it what is intensity of angry feelings.  do have a problem with anger. If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, you might need help finding better ways to deal anger.

we don't learn how to handle or channel anger constructively.so people who are easily angered are disruptive, chaotic, and not skilled at emotional communications. Easily angered people gets withdraw socially, sulk, or get physically ill.

It's best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to develop strategies to keep those triggers over the edge.
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone.:

• Learn what anger is
• Identify what triggers your anger
• Recognize signs that you're becoming angry
• Learn to respond to frustration and anger in a controlled, healthy way
• Explore underlying feelings, such as sadness or depression

Avoid people, places, and situations that bring out your worst

Important thing is you recognize the warning signs that your temper is rising and anticipate your triggers, you can act quickly to deal with your anger before it spins out of control. Identifying the real source of frustration will help you communicate your anger better, take constructive action, and work towards a resolution. 

Find healthier ways to express your anger. the key is to express your feelings in a healthy way. When communicated respectfully and channeled effectively, anger can be a tremendous source of energy and inspiration for change.

Maintaining and strengthening the relationship, rather than “winning” the argument, should always be your first priority. Be respectful of the other person and his or her viewpoint.  it’s important to consider whether the issue is really worthy.
If your anger is still out of control, despite anger management techniques into practice—you need more help. There are many programs for anger management problems. Asking for help is good and getting direct knowhow on techniques for controlling anger can be tremendously helpful.

CONSIDER PROFESSIONAL HELP IF:

• You feel constantly frustrated and angry no matter what you try.
• Your temper causes problems at work or in your relationships.
• You avoid new events and people because you feel like you can’t control your temper.
• Your anger has led to physical violence.

• Therapy for anger problems. Therapy can be a great way to explore the reasons behind your anger. If you don’t know why you are getting angry, it’s very hard to control. Therapy provides a safe environment to learn more about your reasons and identify triggers for your anger. It’s also a safe place to practice new skills in expressing your anger.

Tips and Techniques for Getting Anger Under Control

The first step in being able to manage your anger is to recognise the situations that make you angry and identify your body's warning signs of anger.

Take time out

If you feel your anger getting out of control, take time out – leave that place. Try stepping out of the room, or going for a walk. Before you go, remember to make a time to talk about the situation later when everyone involved has calmed down. During a time out, plan how you are going to stay calm when your conversation resumes.

Relaxation

Hypnotherapy can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn Hypnotherapy Hypnotherapy.

Cognitive Restructuring

This means changing the way you think. When you're angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones.  Tell yourself, "it's frustrating, and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow."

Be careful of words like "never" or "always" when talking about yourself or someone else. they also serve to make you feel that your anger is justified and that there's no way to solve the problem. They humiliate people who might be willing to work with you on a solution.

Remind yourself that the world is "not out to get you," you're just experiencing some of the rough spots of life. Do this each time you feel anger getting the best of you, and it'll help you get a more balanced perspective. angry people demand, and when their demands aren't met, their disappointment becomes anger. As part of their thinking restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature.

Problem Solving

Sometimes, our anger and frustration are caused by very real problems in our lives. Not all anger is misplaced. The best attitude to bring to such a situation on how you handle and face the problem.

Make a plan, and check your progress along the way. Resolve to give it your best, and if not fall into all-or-nothing thinking, even if the problem does not get solved right away.

Better Communication

Angry people tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

Get some exercise

Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed. Exercise Bring down your general stress levels with exercise and relaxation. Make time to relax regularly, and ensure that you get enough sleep. Drugs and alcohol can make anger problems worse.
Don’t use phrases that include:

• always (for example, "You always do that.")
• never ("You never listen to me.")
• should or shouldn't ("You should do what I want," or "You shouldn't be on the roads.")
• must or mustn't ("I must be on time," or "I mustn't be late.")
• ought or oughtn't ("People ought to get out of my way.")
• not fair

Using Humor

Angry people tend to feel that they are morally right, that any blocking or changing of their plans is an unbearable indignity and that they should NOT have to suffer this way. Maybe other people do, but not them!
Do not  take yourself too seriously. Anger is a serious emotion, but it's often accompanied by ideas that, if examined, can make you laugh.

Changing Your Environment

Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some "personal time" scheduled for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful.

Managing anger in the long term 

Control your thinking

When you're angry, your thinking can get exaggerated and irrational. Try replacing these kinds of thoughts with more useful, rational ones and you should find that this has an effect on the way you feel. Think of your good past incidances – your work appreciations – your roll models. NLP can do maximum in this aspects

Develop habit of ‘self talk'. Develop a list of things to say to yourself before, during and after situations that may make you angry. It is more helpful if these things focus on how you are managing the situation rather than what other people should be doing. Psychologists call this type of thinking

Learn assertiveness skills

Assertiveness skills can be learnt through self-help books or by attending courses. These skills ensure that anger is channelled and expressed in clear and respectful ways. Being assertive means being clear with others about what your needs and wants are, feeling okay about asking for them, but respecting the other person's needs and concerns as well and being prepared to negotiate.

Try to acknowledge what is making you angry

Acknowledge that a particular issue has made you angry by admitting it to yourself and others. Telling someone that you felt angry when they did or said something.

you think about who you express your anger to, and take care that you aren't just dumping your anger on the people closest to you, or on people who are less powerful than you

Seeking professional assistance - You Need Counseling?

You can always come to me if you feel your anger is out of control. I can assess if your anger is a problem, and help you understand your anger. Together, we can work out how to get what you want in a better way. I can also advise you about other resources to help manage your anger, such as support groups, books and courses. I can also help you manage other problems that may be associated with anger, such as depression, violence or difficulties in your personal relationships.

If your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your working and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. I can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.

What About  Training?

It's true that angry people need to learn Remember, you can't eliminate anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. Controlling your angry responses is success and happiness of life.

Medicines for Anger

Anger is identified with depression. Antidepressants are often the first treatment people get for anger. If one antidepressant doesn't work well, psychiatrist try another drug of the same class or a different class of depression medicines altogether. Psychiatrist might also try changing the dose.

Most anger can potentially benefit even without taking medication. A number of studies have shown NLP to be at least as effective in treating mild to severe depression. Studies also show that a combination relaxation and NLP can be effective in treating any type of anger.

Homeopathy for Anger

Medication rarely do promise cure, or control. But allopathic drugs used to control the disease create a second disease picture with their numerous side effects. In Western medicine we have very few anti anger drugs, none without side effects, some very debilitating.

homeopathy can actually cure any anger. And a cure in homeopathy means not only relieving the symptoms but eradicating the predisposition to a particular condition. homeopathic remedies are individualized for that particular individual only.

All homeopathic remedies are proved on healthy people to determine what symptoms they will cover. Yet as a homeopathic remedy it does not come even close to a hundred other remedies for anger, each one tailored to the particular patient.

Homeopathy has so many more great anti-anger remedies: Chelidonium, Calcarea carbonicum, Cina, Graphites, Nitric Acidum, Stannum, Psorinum, Pulsatilla, etc.—each for a different set of symptoms and a different causative factor. Do you see now that homeopathy is far superior to any Western drug because it is tailored to the patient?

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy is an extremely effective treatment for anger. These therapy gives skills and insight to help prevent anger from coming back.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy teach you practical techniques on how to reframe negative thinking and employ behavioral skills in combating anger. Therapy can also help you work through the root of anger, helping to  understand why you feel a certain way, what your triggers are for anger and what you can do to stay healthy.

Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy helps you step back and see what might be contributing to your anger and how you can make changes.

Neuro Linguistic Programme

Neuro Linguistic Programme is  different, than other traditional therapies and psychotherapy.

• NLP is based on two specific tasks: restructuring, - changing  thinking patterns, and behavioral activation -- in which patients learn to overcome obstacles to participating in enjoyable activities. NLP focuses on the immediate present: what and how a person thinks more than why a person thinks that way.
• NLP focuses on specific problems. In individual, problem behaviors and problem thinking are identified AND treated.
• NLP is goal oriented. Patients working with their therapists are asked to define goals for each session as well as longer-term goals
• The approach of NLP is educational. The therapist uses learning experiences that teach patients to monitor their negative thoughts and mental images. The goal is to CHANGE their mood, behavior, and physical condition. I also teach important skills, such as problem solving and scheduling pleasurable experiences.
• NLP patients are expected to take an active role in their learning, in the session and between sessions. They are given homework assignments at each session -- some of them graded in the beginning -- and the assignment tasks are reviewed at the start of the next session.
• NLP employs multiple strategies, including Socratic questioning, role playing, imagery, guided discovery, and behavioral experiments.
• NLP is time limited. Typically, treatment lasts 6 to 10 weeks.

Neuro Linguistic Programme for Depression

Neuro Linguistic Programme is  different, than other traditional therapies and psychotherapy.

• NLP is based on two specific tasks: restructuring, - changing  thinking patterns, and behavioral activation -- in which patients learn to overcome obstacles to participating in enjoyable activities. NLP focuses on the immediate present: what and how a person thinks more than why a person thinks that way.
• NLP focuses on specific problems. In individual, problem behaviors and problem thinking are identified AND treated.
• NLP is goal oriented. Patients working with their therapists are asked to define goals for each session as well as longer-term goals
• The approach of NLP is educational. The therapist uses learning experiences that teach patients to monitor their negative thoughts and mental images. The goal is to CHANGE their mood, behavior, and physical condition. I also teach important skills, such as problem solving and scheduling pleasurable experiences.
• NLP patients are expected to take an active role in their learning, in the session and between sessions. They are given homework assignments at each session -- some of them graded in the beginning -- and the assignment tasks are reviewed at the start of the next session.
• NLP employs multiple strategies, including Socratic questioning, role playing, imagery, guided discovery, and behavioral experiments.
• NLP is time limited. Typically, treatment lasts 6 to 10 weeks.